5 Myths About the Female Orgasm, Busted

We took a deep dive into the wild world of the female O.

When it comes to the magical, mysterious female orgasm, there seems to be not one, but several misconceptions floating around. Is the G-spot a thing? Do women actually “squirt”? While we could blame porn, we took it upon ourselves to conduct some in depth research to discover the facts and the fiction surrounding the lady O.

Myth: Female ejaculation only happens in porn.

Truth: Female ejaculation, or “squirting,” happens both on and off the big screen. The fact of the matter is some women do and some women don’t. To get real National Geographic with it, some women’s “urethral sponge”— an evolutionary by-product, like men’s nipples — produces fluid while others don’t. When a woman is highly aroused, the sponge swells, and when the interior vaginal wall is pressed directly and intensely the fluid might release. (PS: It’s not urine. It’s like men’s ejaculate, but without sperm.) Aren’t you glad you repressed all of health class?

Myth: Vaginal orgasms are better than clitoral orgasms. 

Truth: Only one things matters: Orgasm. While clitoral orgasm is often easier for a woman to achieve, it doesn’t mean it’s less intense than a vaginal orgasm. A woman can orgasm through breast stimulation, or simply from breathing (Ever seen 40 Days and 40 Nights? You know what we’re talking about…) However, science does say that vaginal orgasms from intercourse can loosen up the muscle groups across a woman’s body, ultimately effecting the way she walks.

Myth: The G-Spot is not an actual thing.

Truth: Again, for some women there’s a spot on the interior wall of the vagina that’s very pleasurable, and that’s what’s known as the G-spot (which is actually named after the German doctor Ernst Gräfenberg… lucky dude). Other women are not as sensitive down there. And that’s a shame.

Myth: Female orgasms are more intense than male orgasms.

Truth: Again, orgasms are orgasms. They are equally as intense and awesome for whoever is experiencing them. They’re also good for you. “Climaxing releases chemicals that boost levels of estrogen and testosterone, which improves the tone and texture of your skin and hair,” notes Dr. Harry Fisch, author of Size Matters

Myth: A woman’s vibrator can desensitize her clitoris. 

Truth: No. Just no. In fact, Debby Herbenick, a sexual health educator at the University of Indiana, says vibrator usage was linked to greater sexual function in measures of arousal, desire, lubrication, and yes, orgasm. “It’s possible that vibrator use does change sensitivity, but it’s also possible that receiving oral sex or having vaginal intercourse changes sensitivity, too!” So, whip out the toys and have a little fun. 

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