Do you really know what women want when things get hot and heavy? Or are you blithely unaware, resorting to your catalog of porn to pull out moves you assume are successful, because damn, those women seem to be enjoying it? While adult films have, for better or worse, become a de-facto form of sex education, what you see on screen is sometimes just for show.
Lucky for you, we asked 10 real-life women in their 20s what they want in bed. Some advice is straightforward (thankfully), but there are also a few subtleties here worth taking notes on.
They told us exactly what you need to know.
1. Take your sweet time.
“Spend more time teasing me before and during sex. Kiss and touch me all over, and make sure I’m really turned on before we have sex. Mix fast and rough passion with slower, gentle touches. Guys have become too impatient and selfish in their love-making.”
-Viktoria, 22
2. Be verbal.
“Guys love it when girls moan, but they rarely do it themselves. It’s so hot when guys swear and grunt in pleasure during sex. It shows he’s really into it, which turns me on even more.”
-Amy, 21
3. Use your hands.
“Use your fingers and rub my clit while we’re having sex. Like most women, I can’t orgasm from penetration alone, so get your fingers busy. Reach around and get me off with your hand when you’re fucking me from behind.”
-Olivia, 28
4. Don’t be afraid to get a little kinky.
“I like freaky, rough sex, but all but one of the guys I’ve ever slept with have stuck to plain, vanilla sex. I want a man to spank my ass, lick my inner thigh, tie my hands together, and whisper something dirty in my ear while we have sex.”
-Dana, 25
5. Undress her slowly.
“Undress me slowly to make things sexier. Ripping our clothes off is hot sometimes, but what I really want is to be unwrapped like a present, slowly and deliberately, and for my sexy lingerie to be appreciated, because it’s all for you.”
-Selen, 22
6. Make sure you take care of her needs.
“When men finish, that’s the end of it. All they focus on is finishing. Guys need to control that urge and give the chick time to enjoy. Make sure I have an orgasm too before you roll over and pass out.”
-Talia, 24
7. More hot sex positions.
“I wish my guy would surprise me with some hot positions that are different than what we normally do, because I’m really over missionary and doggy style. Put my legs on your shoulders, or pick me up and take me to the kitchen and fuck me on the counter.”
-Jess, 29
8. Go down on her.
“I love it when a guy goes down on me, especially if he knows what he’s doing. Kiss a trail from my neck all the way down, and eat me out. If only men realized how hot that is…”
-Camille, 27
9. Look her in the eye.
“Sex is way, way sexier when it’s intimate, and kissing and eye contact during sex is so hot. It makes everything feel so much more passionate, and that is a massive turn-on. Make out with me while you’re inside me, and kiss my neck and shoulders and everything else.”
-Kat, 22
10. When it comes to foreplay, think outside the box.
“I like foreplay more than actually having sex, but foreplay is always over too fast and too soon. Tease me, talk dirty, and finger me until I’m dripping wet.”
-Gracie, 24
Gentlemen, you heard it from the ladies themselves. You know what to do.